The official list of Books that Dad Must Read.
There are countless must read lists for Dad “How-to” Books. The books listed below will change your mindset while helping you develop as a person.
They will provoke you to rethink your life and help you become a better person. The change in your mindset will help you become a more successful person and consequently a better dad.
#1 – Gorilla Mindset by Mike Cernovich
Gorilla Mindset looks at the way we think in our daily lives. It examines how the root of many our shortcomings in life is due to the mindset we are living.
This book was written specifically for men. It’s evident by the way it is written and provides many examples that are exact thoughts any dad would have.
Dads get locked into patterns, whether they work or are Stay at Home Dads. We, sometimes, want different things to happen in our lives. We want to be more successful in certain areas but the patterns we have developed provide the same results in the end.
”The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results
Gorilla Mindset encourages its reader to break free of those patterns. Changing our mindset and emotions will bring about change in our everyday lives.
Imagine your child misbehaves, I know that’s a stretch. The child knocks a cup of juice off the table, we get upset and discipline them as we see fit. Two hours later our child does it again and we discipline the same way again. If our child didn’t listen the first time, why will they listen the second time?
Gorilla Mindset challenges you to look at your life to see if you are truly happy. Do you have the relationships, money, persona, and countless other items that you desire?
I became a better dad after I read this book. I forced myself to be more involved and changing my mindset to remember what it meant to have children.
#2 – No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
No More Mr Nice Guy looks at men and the patterns they have developed throughout their lives. These patterns were ingrained into our thoughts from a young age from the interactions we had growing up. The memories we have of our Fathers and the roles females played in our lives.
Men have been encouraged to find ways to please everyone else, not themselves. No More Mr Nice Guy goes into depths about ways to improve yourself to help develop more meaningful relationships with both other men and your spouse.
Many “Nice Guys” are unable to express themselves in fear of offending. They have hidden agendas, fetishes or scarcity to achieve their goals in life because of the traits they have learned. Their overwhelming need to be liked by everyone encourages these secrets to remain hidden.
I remember shortly after our daughter was born, my wife was talking on the phone with a guy she had met in University. I truly believe to be an Alpha and really lived a carefree life. We were going through a rough time in our relationship.
After seeing the hidden conversations, I confronted her. I asked her “How can you talk to someone like that, he’s not a nice guy like I am”.
She did stop talking to him. After I read this book I realized that the reason she was talking to him was my fault. I was leading an undetermined life and not providing what she actually required.
I didn’t get to see my Dad a lot when I was young. I believe I developed my nice guy syndromes due to his missing masculine presence. His work schedule usually meant he came home later in the evening and many times I didn’t get to see him.
I spent most of my childhood being raised by my mom. Reading the book, I understood what this has done to me.
#3 – Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Think and Grow Rich: The Classic Edition is definitely the oldest book on the list. However, it’s message may be even more relevant now than it was when it was written.
The author interviewed countless successful high worth businessmen in the early twentieth century to understand what makes a successful and wealthy person. The conclusion he came to is that if you can envision it, you are already on the right steps to becoming that wealthy person.
There is no shortcut however and the author doesn’t tell the exact secret. If you don’t see it while you are reading it, you will never achieve it. The book harnesses the power of your own mindset (see a pattern here) to achieve your desires.
This book consistently ranks among the top 10 in business books of all-time. The books focus is on building a financial fortune, growing rich has different meanings for different people.
I envision having a certain level of income in the future, but I value more the time I spend with my children and family.
#4 – Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris
The 4-Hour Workweek looks at your productivity and how to outsource your life. There are sections that focus on employees as well.
Outsourcing your life could provide you with greater freedom to do the things you want. Outsourcing aspects of your life will allow more time to spend with your children.
As an entrepreneur, I had taken one of the suggestions in the bookand began discussions with a company in India. Although they had highly skilled staff in the industry, the cost was prohibitive. I believe it was because the company I contacted was directly referenced in The 4-Hour Workweek.
What could you outsource to save time? You could have someone cook for you (but you would miss out on these awesome recipes) while having a cleaner come in once a week.
If you own your business or blog, you could hire someone answer your phone and emails. From my experience, personal assistants can be hired for less than $500.
Changing the way you think about the way you live your life will open up more time to spend with your children.
#5 – Oh, The Places You’ll Go by Dr. Suess
Oh, The Places You’ll Go! so this one is totally out of left field but hear me out.
This book is intended for Children, but is the most motivational book I have ever read.
I love reading this book. I can’t go through it without, flash backs to many different life events.
“And will you succeed, yes you will indeed. 98 and 3/4 percent guarenteed. KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS
~Oh, The Place You’ll Go
My children’s face light up at this quote, as does mine. I believe it is instilling in them that they can do and be anything they want.
The book breaks down life and what is ahead so well, it makes me wonder why some people are surprised when it happens.
There will be times when you are alone while there will times when you are scared or sad.
Believe in yourself and your mind will take you there.
All of these books, have something in common, changing and developing your mindset to get the most out of your life.
Your children deserve the best dad that you can give them and all these books encourage this. Become the best man you can, enjoy your children and be as successful as you can possibly be.
What books would you recommend? Mention in the comments.